Subject To Change

“Everything changes, nothing remains without change.” Buddha

.All The Colours Of The Rainbow

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Why do we choose to write about what we do? Why let out certain emotions on your blog and others in your everyday life? Why express certain opinions here rather than in day to day talk? I was talking to Lady Divine when these thoughts came up. She blogs about pretty much everything that goes on in her life, whereas I just post about things I feel the need to write about. Different aspects of my personality come out in different modes and methods; some through my poetry, some through my prose, some through these posts, some through speech, actions and some just linger in my mind. Is it only me?

It’s interesting to see how this spectrum is created; the reasons why Red comes before Orange and Yellow. Why Green is next to Blue, and Indigo next to Violet. And yet, you don’t see all the colours of the rainbow. Do you? But why not? Do they not exist? Or are you just not looking hard enough?

You can’t blame someone for who they are, only for what they portray to you. You can only criticize what they let you criticize. You can only judge what they let you judge. Because you only know what let you know, the rest is for you to find out. What does it mean to know a mirror from a veil? Sometimes you look at someone and think you see yourself in them. Sometimes that’s just an illusion to hide something within them. Pull it aside, and you see what’s really there. You have to forget about yourself, to truly know someone else. Don’t ever look for yourself in someone else. Find yourself. Look for them.

When you’re looking for things in common, some things might not make sense. You might wonder why they’re similar in one way but different in the other. You begin to create an image of the person based on a model that is yourself. You start adding on and taking off as you learn more about them, but sometimes things just don’t fit or they come out looking… weird. Why? Because you’ve been looking at them as though they were you. But there are so many factors that come into play, in both your case and theirs, that determine who you are and the choices that you make. And it’s impossible for you to know them all, again in both cases. In order to know someone you must first know yourself, and then remember that they are not you and you are not them. It’s easier to pull aside a veil than to destroy a mirror.


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January 15, 2009 at 2:11 pm

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  1. Seeing yourself in others comes out of our need to stick to the familiar. You take each quality in a person, then compare them with your own, methodically ticking off a list. It’s just who we are. You see someone you think is a lot like you, and you are instantly drawn to them. You can only hope that they really are who you thought they were, and not someone completely different.

    Also, you’re k from lame duck right? :O


    January 15, 2009 at 2:42 pm

  2. “Seeing yourself in others comes out of our need to stick to the familiar.” Woah! You think?

    And as for hope, “Hope is always fear for the pain it may cost” (:

    And no, I’m not on Lame Duck.

    Rise of the Fallen

    January 15, 2009 at 3:19 pm

  3. You’ve pretty much written out about our conversation..:)
    It was very thought provoking…. 🙂

    lady divine

    January 15, 2009 at 4:42 pm

  4. hmmmm.. quite thought provoking that. about criticism, we only criticise what we know, and often simply for the case of criticising, simply for the sake of proving ourselves capable of critisism. i guess ego plays a role. and as for finding yourself in others, well, maybe you cant actually fnd yourself but you can find a guide in others to show you the way.

    dude you had me talking in riddles just then, neat write up


    January 15, 2009 at 6:59 pm

  5. I’m not as wordy as you you poem slinging schmuck. 😛

    That bit was mostly cover to ask about the lame duck thing anyway 😛


    January 16, 2009 at 9:27 am

  6. Philosophical arn’t you? hmmm What does it mean to know one’s self. know yourself, you say. What does that mean. Knowing exactly what about me, would qualify me, as knowing my self.


    January 21, 2009 at 5:36 pm

  7. Simply put, things that would differ in other people. The basic structure of your psyche – the “model”. Personality traits & patterns etc. Also, to be able to identify your ego from your id. Acknowledging your “dark side” and Shadow.

    If you know enough about yourself to be able to differentiate yourself from any other person, you would probably have a good idea of who you are. Though, in different people these “qualifiers” may differ. So, I can’t “exactly” say. (:

    Rise of the Fallen

    January 21, 2009 at 5:49 pm

  8. awesome but i lost track of the colors of the rainbow in my life long time ago!very liturgikal


    January 31, 2009 at 7:27 am

  9. i like the quote on the top of the page.but the exavt words are different but you’ve imparted the Buddha’s messeage of impermanance very well. I praise it as a strong Budhhist Three cheers for a job well done. I shall give you the exact words when i meet u!


    February 1, 2009 at 12:50 am

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